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第一篇:《如何与人交往英语作文》
In our daily life, we have to come into contact with people in every walk of life.therefore, it is very important for us to know how to get along with other people. to get well along with others and win their friendships, we must observe strictly the following words.
To begin with, we need to be honest with others and shouh{ always say what we mean. lies will surely make people stay far away from us in the long run. after all,honesty is the best policy. second, we have to be humble enough. if we are proud in public, we can hardly win other's respect, not to mention "friendship"
Finally, we must not be selfish. we should learn how to show concern for others.
As long as we abide by what is mentioned above, we will find it easy to get along well with others.
How to Mend a Broken Friendship
Growing up across the street from each other in Twin Falls, Idaho, Lisa Fry and Paula Turner never doubted their friendship would last forever. But after Fry married, moved to New York City and had a baby, her letters to Turner suddenly went unanswered. "Do you think I've somehow offended her?" Fry asked her husband.
Turner, meanwhile, had convinced herself she was no longer important to Fry. "She's got a family now," she told herself. "We're just too different to be close like before."
Finally, Fry summoned the courage to call her old friend. At first, the conversation was awkward, yet soon they both admitted that they missed each other. A month later, they got together and quickly fell into their old habit of laughing and sharing confidences.
"Thank goodness I finally took action," Fry says. "We both realized we were as important to each other as ever."
There are good reasons to cherish our friendships. Some years ago a p
ublic-opinion research firm, Roper Starch Worldwide, asked 2007 people to identify one or two things that said the most about themselves. Friends far outranked homes, jobs, clothes and cars.
"A well-established friendship carries a long history of experience and interaction that defines who we are and keeps us connected," says Donald Pannen, executive officer of the Western Psychological Association. "It is a heritage we should protect."
Ironically, says Brant R. Burleson, professor of communication at Purdue University in West Lafayette, Ind., "the better friends you are, the more likely you'll face conflicts." And the outcome can be precisely what you don't want–an end to the relationship.
The good news is that most troubled friendships can be mended. Here's what experts suggest:
Swallow your pride. It wasn't easy, but that's what Denise Moreland of Hickam Air Force Base in Hawaii did when a friendship turned sour. For nearly four months, Moreland, 45, had watched over Nora Huizenga's two young daughters, who were living with their father on the base, while Huizenga, 40, completed training as a dental hygienist in Nevada. "I felt honored to be asked to step in," Moreland says.
When Huizenga returned at Christmas, Moreland recalls, "I had so much to tell her, but she never called." One daughter had a birthday party, but Moreland wasn't invited. "I felt like I'd been used," she says.
At first, Moreland vowed to avoid Huizenga. Then she decided to swallow her pride and let her friend know how she felt. Huizenga admitted that she'd been so worried about being separated from her family that she'd been blind to what her friend had done to help her. Today she says, "I would never have figured out what happened if Denise hadn't called me on it."
When a friend hurts you, your instinct is to protect yourself. But that makes it harder to patch up problems, explains William Wilmot, author of Relational Communication. "Most of us are relieved when differ
ences are brought out in the open."
Apologize when you're wrong–even if you've also been wronged. No one should allow himself to be emotionally abused by anyone. But over the course of a friendship, even the best people make mistakes. "A relationship can grind to a standstill if the offender refuses to make the first move at reconciliation," Wilmot explains. "Under these circumstances, it may be best if the wronged person takes the initiative and apologizes–for getting upset, for not understanding the friend's circumstances. When you apologize, give your friend the opportunity to admit that he'd screwed up."
Experts agree that one of the worst things you can do when you're upset is to start a fight. "We don't think clearly when we're arguing," says Michael Lang, a professional mediator in Pittsburgh. Instead, says Lang, ask: "What's going on? This doesn't make sense."{如何与人相处的作文}.
See things from your friend's point of view. Sociologist Rebecca Adams of the University of North Carolina at Greensboro and Rosemary Blieszner, professor of gerontology and family studies at the Virginia Polytechnic Institute and State University in Blacksburg, interviewed 53 adults who each had many friendships lasting decades. "We were curious how these people managed to sustain strong friendships for so long," says Blieszner.
Tolerance is key, the researchers learned. The subjects also didn't let problems get blown out of proportion. "It's surprising how often a dispute results from a simple misunderstanding," adds psychotherapist Anne Frenkel.
Accept that friendships change. In the spring of 1996, Cindy Lawson, 34, of Chicago, and a close friend decided to co-host a friend's bridal shower. The two women agreed to share the work and the cost. Then the friend, an attorney, took a new, more demanding job. Total responsibility for the shower fell to Lawson.
On the Saturday of the shower, Lawson did all the party decorating, then prepared dinner for 35 guests. Her co-host did not arrive from he
r office until shortly before the event. Later her friend complained about the cost.
Lawson was furious. But deep down, she did not want to break off ties. The two women were in a book club together, had many common friends and enjoyed dinners out together with their husbands. Instead, Lawson decided to remain friends–but not close friends.
"Friendships change as our needs and lifestyles change," Wilmot observes. "It's healthy to have a host of friends and to sometimes shift the status of one or another."
Making friends can sometimes seem easy, says Yager. The hard part is keeping the connections strong during the natural ups and downs that affect all relationships. Her suggestion: Consider friendship an honor and a gift, and worth the effort to treasure and nurture
第二篇:《怎样与人交往》
怎样与人交往
王爱华
人的一生要与许许多多的人打交道,与人交往是平凡事,但也有一些窍门。用好了会让人感觉轻松愉快。如:
树立平等观。人与人之间只有社会分工和职责范围的差别,而没有高低贵贱之分,与人交往要平等相待,一视同仁,相互尊重,不亢不卑。不能见到领导摧眉折腰,见到百姓趾高气昂,那是小人所为,绝对不可取。平等是一杆秤,你对人怎样,人也会对你怎样。没有平等就难以交往。
保持乐观心态。世界上有两种人,一种是乐观的人,一种是悲观的人。乐观的人,面对黄昏时会吟诵“老夫喜作黄昏颂,满目青山夕照明”,而悲观的人则会慨叹“夕阳无限好,只是近黄昏”。和乐观的人交往自己也会变得乐观。“世界向微笑的人敞开”、“巴掌不打笑面人”、任何人都不会拒绝和乐观的人交往。心里不留烦心事,人自然就乐观了。比如我成天傻傻的,心里尽可能少装甚至不装事情。
话谨而言之。我们老家有句话“话说三遍无人听,再说三遍讨人厌”。大家也都知道“祸从口出”的道理。所以,尽量做到:话到嘴边留三分,人微言轻少开口。该说之时不保留,不该说时莫开口。说出去的话,泼出去的水,难以收回。话多不如话少,话少不如话好。有些话烂在肚子里比说出来要好。
善待他人。 每个人都喜欢跟善良的人交往,换个位置,站在对方的角度思考,如果你是个善良之人,那么,与人交往还能难吗?在职场也好,在生活中也好,人与人之间的误会、隔阂,怨恨等都会时有发生,只要心
地善良些,互谅互让,误会、怨恨也能变成令人感动和怀念的往事。
密西根大学心理系教授詹姆斯说过:“常露笑容的人,比不笑容的人在经营、买卖、教育……等方面比较有效果和成就。”交往也是如此,笑意是善意的象征,它可以使自已和对方明朗活跃起来,对对方产生很大的吸引力。否则,脸色忧郁、刻板、阴沉,别人自然会退避三舍,不愿与你交谈、更不会与你交往。因而,在交往中,要面带微笑,态度和蔼,语气温和是十分重要的技能。
学习倾听技能。有人曾经这样说过:如果你想让人讨厌、嘲笑或轻视,你最好遵守以下的要领:
(1)对方的倾谈绝对不要去听。
(2)从头到尾只说自已的事情。
(3)在对方说话时,打断并插入自已的意见。
(4)如果对方反应慢,就在他说到一件事时毫不客气的打断。
因而,这四点是交往中的大忌。但在现实生活中,我们如果不注意这方面,对于对方有话不耐心听,夸夸其谈、自我陶醉。很明显,这样的人难以赢得良好的人际关系。
学习赞美技能。每个人都希望得到别人的认同和赞美,从而证明自身存在的价值。因此,在交往中,对别人的长处和优势,别人的关心和帮助要由衷的感谢和赞美。这样就能激发对方和你交往的热情。当然,赞美是要真诚的并不是虚伪的。
以上是我用的较多的方式,当然还有其他的更好的方式。其实,好多同事都比我做得更好。希望大家开心更多,朋友更多。
第三篇:《与他人相处英语作文》
In our daily life, we have to come into contact with people in every walk of life.Therefore, it is very important for us to know how to get along with other people. To get well along with others and win their friendships, we must observe strictly the following words.
To begin with, we need to be honest with others and shouh{ always say what we mean. Lies will surely make people stay far away from us in the long run. After all,honesty is the best policy. Second, we have to be humble enough. If we are proud in public, we can hardly win other's respect, not to mention "friendship" Finally, we must not be selfish. We should learn how to show concern for others.
As long as we abide by what is mentioned above, we will find it easy to get along well with others.
怎样与人相处
在我们日常生活中,不免会有与人打交道的时候,所以对我们采说懂得怎样与人相处是很重要的。要想与别人很好相处,并赢得友谊,就必须做到以下所述:
首先,要诚实守信地对待别人,说谎一定会使人远离你,诚实是最好的策略。其次,就是要有足够的虚心。假如我们在公共场合自傲,我们很难赢得别人的尊重,更不用提友谊了。最后,我们不能自私,我们必须友善待人,我们必须关心别人。
当我们遵守上述所说的去与人相处,你就会发现:与人相处其实并不难。
怎样与同学相处(How To Get On With Classmates)
how do you get on with your classmates? i think it's to answer that question. if you meet up with your friends, you can say, "hello!" your friends must be happy, they will that you are a polite girl or a boy!if your friends have some questions, you should help them. they'll thank you for your help my classmates are helpful and polite. if of my classmates has some problems, my classmates will help them solve it. so they are excited.we help each other and take care of each other.
i hope can be a polite and helpful child, and i hope you can get on with all of your classmates.
In our daily life, we have to come into contact with people in every walk of life.Therefore, it is very important for us to know how to get along with other people. To get well along with others and win their friendships, we must observe strictly the following words.
To begin with, we need to be honest with others and shouh{ always say what we mean. Lies will surely make people stay far away from us in the long run. After all,honesty is the best policy. Second, we have to be humble enough. If we are proud in public, we can hardly win other's respect, not to mention "friendship" Finally, we must not be selfish. We should learn how to show
concern for others.
As long as we abide by what is mentioned above, we will find it easy to get along well with others.
A true friend is sweet, between, should close, have mutual affinity. But to maintain and develop friendship, friends and friends, the key is as follows:
1, trust is a bridge of friendship between friends to trust each other, as the saying goes: "people in heart, 5 in half jins of". "People who believe, the following. Can you with sincerity, took out his sincerity, others will also with the same attitude toward you. You ask others to trust you, will adhere to a "sincerity", to meet, loyalty, honesty and frankness subsistence. This is not only a person, but to friends.
2 and magnanimous cluster friends: irren ist menschlich? Only the broad-minded, delicate features, can make more friends. Your friend may have shortcomings, may also make some mistakes. You should learn to tolerate munificent magnanimous, the faults of others, and to help each other to counsel, enthusiastic truth. Even between good friends and sometimes difficult to have some differences and conflicts, and, if not misunderstanding, should be more principles, addition, laugh. Generosity is able to friends in the criticism, and can realize outspoken criticism of friends, is a true
friend.{如何与人相处的作文}.
3, the tribulation of friendship: friend is sincere friendship, like-minded, not by words, or heavy gift. Disgusting, materials, using the exchange, even the people of the
treacherous, is that we should carefully TuQi. True friendship, should withstand the test of time, also can withstand the test environment. At a critical moment, affliction, a simple greeting, a practical support to express feelings between friends.
4 miles, hair, send isn: bosom friends, is spiritual interaction and communication,
often a ShiJian paper, a small souvenir, can make friends to appreciate your
eloquently. Visible, friends, and not in the gift exchanges between the weight of the gift, but lies in choosing good gifts. Thus, even a small gift is not high value, will
make friends heart, deepen the friendship between.
5 and split into enemy: not parents, friends or attitudes.their will happen. No matter what the reason for your friends and don't break, malicious, personalities, and should be good. People say: gentleman handed over the past, not ESheng. If you decide to break off with a friend, also can choose a variety of measures, such as: the
conversation candid – can tell him, why can't you be a friend, he can understand you. Text messaging – if you tear open face face, can send a message that ties. You don't have to take from – direct action, but gradually alienated each other, if a person is a wise man with long, also can understand.
真正的朋友之间,应该是贴心、知心、心的。但要维护和发展朋友之谊,就要注意与朋友交往的礼仪,其要点如下:
1、懂得信任是友谊的桥梁:朋友间要相互信任,俗话说:“人心换人心,五两换半斤”。“信人者,人恒信之”。你能以诚待人,掏出自己的真心来,别人也会以同样的态度对待你。你要求别人信任你,就要恪守一个“诚”字,以诚相见,诚信相待,以诚立身,开诚布公。这不仅是做人的本分,更是交友所必须。
2、大度朋:,孰能无过?只有心胸开阔,气度恢宏的人,才能多交朋友。你的朋友可能有这样那样的缺点,也可能会犯某些错误。你要学会宽宏大度,能容忍别人的过失,同时要直言相劝,热情帮助对方。即使是好朋友之间,有时也难有一些矛盾、分歧和误会,只要不是原则问题,就应该求大同,存小异,一笑置之。大度还表现在能够听取朋友的批评意见,能认识到敢于直言批评的朋友,才是真正的朋友。
3、患难中见真情:朋友的友谊靠的是,志趣相投,而不是靠蜜语或重礼来往。肉麻的吹捧,物资的交换,互相利用,甚至是尔虞我诈的小人之交,是我们应该严加吐弃的。真正的友谊,应该经得起时间的考验,也经得起外界环境的考验。在关键的时刻,患难之际,一句简单的问候,一个切实的支持都能表达出朋友之间的真情实意。
4、,:知心朋友之间,看重的是精神上的交往和络,往往一纸诗笺,一个小小纪念品,都能使朋友领略到你的情深意切。可见,朋友之间交往,赠与并不在礼品的轻重,而在于选择好送礼的时机。这样,即使是一件价值不高的小小礼物,都会使朋友之间心心相印,加深情谊。
5、绝交不仇人:朋友反目,甚至断绝来往,这种情况也常有发生。不论是什么原因使你和朋友绝交,都不要恶意相向,进行人身攻击,而应当好聚好散。过去人说:君子交绝,不出恶声。如果你决定和某个朋友分手断交,也有多{如何与人相处的作文}.
种办法可以选择,例如:谈话——可以坦诚告诉他,为什么你们不能做朋友了,求他谅解你。发短信——你若当面撕不开脸皮,可发以短信说明断交的原因。疏远——你也可不采取直接的行动,只是渐渐地疏远对方,如果对方是个聪明人,用不了多久,也就会明白的。
我们每个人的生活和学习中,交往和协作是必不可少的,我们既要学会与社会、与身边的人交往,还要学会协作。 在社会生活中,每个人都想做最具竞争力的人,但他们是否知道,竞争与协作是相辅相成的,最具竞争力的人往往也是最善于协作的人。现代社会提倡在协作基础上的竞争。据我了解,当今一些选拔高科技人才的考试中,除了考基础理论、专业知识、动手实验能力之外,还有几项指标,专门测评应试者与他人的协作能力和协作精神。这就是说,若想成为以后的高科技人才之一,善于协作是非常重要的素质之一。 协作不是协作者之间的简单的组合,而是需要互相配合,互相支持的。不要说在人类的生活当中需要协作,就连在动物的世界里,也是需要互相协作的:大家都知道生活在非洲河流中的鳄鱼,生性凶猛残暴,经常伤害人、畜,令人畏惧。可谁又能想到,它和乖巧的千鸟居然是一对好朋友,从不加以伤害。每当鳄鱼饱餐之后,千鸟总要来替它整理一番,鳄鱼顺从的张开大嘴,让千鸟认真的替它打扫口腔卫生。鳄鱼有时会因为忘记了千鸟而闭上了嘴,千鸟用坚硬的羽毛,轻轻刺一下鳄鱼,它便立即张开嘴,让小鸟继续工作。感觉灵敏的千鸟,只要周围有动静,就一哄而散,叽喳乱叫。鳄鱼就会做好防备或逃跑。除了鳄鱼和千鸟,还有和睦相处的犀
牛和犀牛鸟、相依为命的白蚁和披发虫等动物,都是在互相协作中生存下去的。 从以上几点来说,互相协作对人,对动物,对世界上有生命的任何一种东西都是非常重要的。于人协作固然是非常重要的,但协作是建立在交往之上的,因此我
们更要学会于人交往,这样才能更好的于人协作。我们,在交往中获得知识,在交往中建立友谊,在交往中成长。我们一来到人世,开始了于父母、亲人的交往,我们正是在他们的搂抱、亲吻、逗玩中长大的。我们也正是在老师的教育下,学会唱歌、跳舞、做游戏和各种知识的。如果我们生下来不于人交往,就不能成为一个正常的人了。;狼孩”的悲剧就证明了这一点。 也许大家听过,20年代的时候,有人在印度一座山里的狼窝中,发现了一个男孩。由于长期与狼为伴,他没有一点人的习性,做什么事都像狼。人们做了很大的努力,他才学会了一些人类的